Pregnancy, for many, is very eagerly awaited and encouraging news. However, this is not the case if the pregnancy is unexpected. Child & Family Psychologist, Anna Surti Ariani, S.Psi, M.Sc., said, “This pregnancy was not planned, right, there are several things, yes, it could be unwanted, unplanned, or conciliatory.”
According to a psychologist who is often called Nina, an unexpected pregnancy has the potential to make a mother-to-be feel guilty. “I wish you weren’t pregnant. If only I didn’t do that. If only I hadn’t been late taking pills or injections, ”he said giving an example.
Nina herself said that during the pandemic, where there was a recommendation to stay at home, there was a discourse on the phenomenon of the baby boom or the number of pregnancies because the couple was constantly at home. “Because of this pandemic, many are using injection contraceptives so they can’t keep their schedule organized. The news about the provision of birth control pills was also difficult to find, “he said. This could be one of the causes of an unplanned pregnancy or a miss.
The child and family psychologist says that an unplanned pregnancy definitely has a psychological impact on the expectant mother. “It’s only natural that something shocking causes confusion. Confusion creates pressure. That pressure is what we call stress, “he said. What experiences do mothers with unplanned pregnancies?
Something that was out of the plan is generally difficult to accept. The mother may reject the presence of the baby and do things that can harm her with the baby. “For example, keep doing bad habits such as smoking, refusing to drink folate, and so on,” said Nina. “The reduced interest in maintaining this womb is one of the psychological impacts that will adversely affect the health of the fetus,” he said.
Mothers may continue to blame what happened so that they experience depression during pregnancy. “This can have an effect on the development of the fetus and the mental health of the child it is carrying.”
After giving birth, depression can continue. “There is still a risk of postpartum depression or postpartum depression,” says Nina. A mother with depression will experience various difficulties in her role as both a wife and a mother. “As a wife, there are feelings of resentment, guilt, which might hinder being kind to her husband. As a mother, there are also difficulties in parenting. Especially if the presence of the child is felt to hinder himself, such as a career, “explained Nina.
If all these things continue, Nina said that the mother’s satisfaction with herself will be lower. “Due to various kinds of regrets, his psychological well-being has decreased. Here again, the problem is, namely the mental health of the mother, “he said.
Nina says that as long as this pregnancy is not accepted as a gift, it will continue to be a disaster. Therefore it is necessary to have proper psychological management so that the mother makes peace with things outside of this plan.
Although an unplanned pregnancy affects a mom’s psychology greatly, it doesn’t mean that unplanned pregnancy has to end up in abortion, for example, according to Nina, does not mean that it will just solve the problem. “In fact, the psychological effects of guilt will last longer,” he said.